There are some things within our control and some outside of our control. Knowing what the difference is can make a big difference to managing our thoughts as well as how we manage difficulties that come our way.
So, what’s in our control? Our attitudes, desires, opinions, what information we read, how productive we are, what we eat, which friends we spend time with, handling feelings, self-talk, how we respond to stress, our time given to self-care, time spent online, how we treat others and where we use our energy.
What’s outside of our control? The family and country we were born in to, the weather, natural disasters, accidents, other people’s behaviours, other people’s decisions and opinions, the past, life’s events and more.
If we spend time and energy trying to control what we can’t, this only drains us and leaves us feeling frustrated, hopeless, tired, angry, and irritated.
We can however control a great deal including the attitude and perception of situations that happen to us. This includes how we respond and react to the situation. We can also choose to accept a situation that can’t be changed (which doesn’t mean we have to like it).
Trying to control or change what isn’t within your control will only drain your energy and leave you in torment.